Tag Archives: Gratitude

Day 415

As you grow older your theories change – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 13 PM on day 415 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth,  tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck other than the donation Chrissy (@ChrissyPappas) made yesterday – thanks again Chrissy :)–publish my Disability of the Day feature,  feed myself All-Bran Flakes with banana for brunch,  tweet about my campaign some more–still no luck – watch TV, feed myself a baked bean sandwich and grilled chicken for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Today I read a tweet to me from Amber-Lee (@girlygrizzly) which said I’m SOOOOO sick, but doin! How are YOU doing? Are we getting closer? Are you happy? I’ve been loving your site lately… and I asked myself am I happy to which the answer was yes because four of the following components two of which – gratitude and giving – were components in my original happiness formula come together six out of seven days:

1. Being present: I never think I wonder what my life would been like if I could walk because it’s pointless it won’t serve me in any way although that doesn’t stop my mother from saying things like if my daughter could walk she could have done so many things in front of me when no one else is around.

2. Having faith: I don’t know the Bible off by heart and I am not perfect but over the last couple of years I have learned not to question God after all He has done more with my life than I could have think about it I can’t even go to the bathroom by myself and yet I wake up every day and try to change the world if that’s not God working through me I don’t know what is.

3. Gratitude: In today world where it’s all about accumulation of money and material objects I have found that it’s not how much we have that matters but rather how much we are grateful for my dad is the perfect example of this he has his family, a job, a house, a car, basically everything you would need to live a great life but since all he can see is what he doesn’t have he might as well not have even the things he has.

4. Giving: Once you see all that you have by being grateful you will naturally want others to have as much or more than you do so you will give and when you do give you will realize that that hole in your heart you’ve been trying to fill with things could only be filled by the joy of giving.

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 410

You can complain about your life and still be grateful– that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 28 PM on day 410 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself spring rolls for breakfast,  prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature, feed myself raw mixed vegetables  for lunch,  tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck –  continue reading Captive of my Desires by Johanna Lindsey feed myself spaghetti with sauce – I used a fork and made a mess oh well 🙂 – for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Last night as I struggled to turn myself over so I could get a decent night’s sleep I realized that I would have to work twice as hard to live half the normal life and that made me burst into tears which normally I would have felt guilty about because I would think to myself what do I have to complain about there are kids right now dying of cancer but yesterday I just thought I am grateful but this is so unfair muffled my tears with a pillow – if my family heard me all they would think to say is we’re sorry and frankly at that precise moment I didn’t need that because they don’t get it they’re only affected by my “disability” when they’re with me other times they can go places with stairs and do things without a second thought whereas I on the other hand don’t have the luxury of taking a break from my life I have twice as hard as everybody else does every minute of my life – and went to sleep. Do you put on a brave face and solider on because you fear being labeled an ingrate?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 384

The magic of life lies in recognizing your blessings before you loss them– that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 01 PM on day 384 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself Batura and chicken curry for breakfast, go visit a few people,  feed myself peanut butter and syrup roll for lunch, go drop my cousin off at the airport,  publish my Kid of the Week feature and  prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature.

Today I went to visit my grandma at my uncle’s and in spite of my best efforts I couldn’t help feeling sad looking at the shell of the person my grandma used to be why am I telling you this to remind you to appreciate the people you love right now because things change and people change someday the people you love might not even remember you. Are you able to recognize your blessings before you lose them?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 382

Money doesn’t make the man; man makes the money– that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 15 PM on day 382 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth,  feed myself a peanut butter roll for breakfast, prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature,   tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – Peter –another one of Chrissy‘s friends – made a donation – thank you Peter you just made the day of someone you don’t even know 🙂 – watch The Rugby World Cup match: South Africa vs. Samoa – we won I asked people to donate to my campaign for every tri South Africa scored – no one did  you win some you lose some I guess  🙂 –  feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch TV and Facebook about my campaign–no further luck.

Yesterday my father was telling me about someone’s very expensive house – size and everything about it – and hearing how envious he sounded I realized that it didn’t matter how many times I told him having more things and money doesn’t make you a better person because he had a different definition of success than I did – he perceives having things and money as being successful whereas, I perceive being of service every day as being successful (every time I do something for someone else without expecting anything in return I feel like my soul is filled I feel like a millionaire) – but I tried to show him what he already had one last time I said we have a house to which he responded but our house doesn’t compare to that house. Are you defined by your bank balance and everything that goes with it?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 377

The best gift you can give your children is something that they can carry with them for the rest of their lives – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 9: 49 PM on day 377 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, drink coffee in a glass, go to church with my mother, sister and brother–the sermon was entitled When your ‘yes’ means nothing it was about the importance of  keeping your word and having the humility to admit you’re wrong when you are wrong – feed myself All-Bran Flakes for breakfast, publish my Kid of the Week feature, feed myself rice and curry for lunch, prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck  okay to be truthful I only tweeted once the whole day the rest was automated by me last night–  finish reading Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins – it was AWESOME it had everything I’ve ever wanted in a book… action, adventure and romance I can’t wait to finish reading the whole series – go to drop my grandma off at my uncle’s house – she was with us while my uncle and his wife were out of town anyway while we were there our priest popped by and my dad made a fau paux he bolted for the door before the priest had a chance to pray (Indian priests always pray when people leave to go somewhere regardless of the distance) luckily he said let’s pray before my dad stepped out the door –  and brush my teeth once more.

Today while at church I thought for all my mother’s faults she gave me Jesus and because of that I never felt like a fatherless child even though my father is a class A jerk – he has made it abundantly clear through his actions that although he may love me he is also ashamed of me because I have Cerebral Palsy – and to her I say thank you mommy. What have been the best gifts that your parents have passed onto you?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 371

The invariable mark of wisdom is to see the miraculous in the common. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

It’s 7: 38 PM on day 371 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself oats for breakfast, practice picking up a glass and putting it back on the table for a few hours – I can now do that to my satisfaction 🙂 – practice writing by hand, watch TV, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – feed myself yoghurt for lunch, watch some TV, continue reading Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins, continue watching TV, feed myself spaghetti bolognaise  for dinner – I used a fork and for the first time ever I didn’t make a huge mess I am SO happy and proud of myself 🙂 –  and brush my teeth once more.

Today as I was practicing picking up a glass and putting it down on the time I realized that I am joyful all the time because although I can only do little in the physical sense I celebrate every little thing I can do and even when there’s something I can’t do I practice it over and over and over again until I can and that is something I think is  missing in today’s world when people don’t achieve their dreams the first, second or even third time around they forget about what they’ve already achieved and just throw in the towel saying it wasn’t meant to be whereas I say I’ll try again tomorrow because I truly believe that you don’t work towards your dream for one year or even ten you work towards your dream until it becomes reality. Do you have the invariable mark of wisdom?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 343

You are nothing without the people who support you– that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 55 PM on day 343 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, reply to a few comments on this blog – which by the way are always welcome – read Love is six parts giving and one part talk by Bonnie Squires – she wrote such nice things about me that I’m still not sure that I’m entirely deserving – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – feed myself  for an avocado sandwich for  breakfast, watch TV,  feed myself rice and curry for lunch, tweet about my campaign some more–watch some more TV and feed myself Chapati, grilled chicken and salad  for dinner.

It is said that friends are God’s way of apologizing for our family and this weekend my online friends proved this to be true by supporting my fundraiser – if you have no idea what I’m talking about refer to Day 338 – together they helped me raise a further $100.85 for my campaign either by spreading the word i.e. retweeting my tweets and/or by making donations of their own – with that said I would like to introduce you to those wonderful people. Take a look:

Supporters of this Weekend’s Fundraiser: Members of Team Nisha

People who have spread the word

People who have donated

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 337

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein

It’s 7: 45 PM on day 337 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself an avocado sandwich for breakfast,  tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – prepare my gratitude journal page  – (see why below) estimated time of publication right after I’m done with this – read How To Put “First Things First” – And Reclaim The Life You Love on My Lifestyle Max and A special kind of sibling torture on Love That Max – both very good blogs – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch TV,  feed myself oranges for dinner, watch some more TV and brush my teeth once more.

As you know this month has been a wrenched one for my family – my brother was in hospital and is still recovering and my grandma is still in hospital – but what astounds me is that no matter what happens on a given day every night or the next day I make an entry in my gratitude journal – sometimes all I write is I am grateful that I am grateful – which is something I think everybody should start doing so in the hopes that you will follow in my footsteps and see your life in a different way I am going to create a page on this blog called Gratitude Journal of 2011, copy and paste all the entries I’ve made so far this year and continue to make new entries until the 31st of December. How do you choose to live your life?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 330

Kids notice things that we overlook – that what I learned today 🙂

It’s 8: 29 PM on day 330 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself toast, scrambled eggs and sausages for brunch, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – Debbie (@MissShuganah) made a donation yesterday and my aunty and uncle made a second donation today only $1 912.10 more to raise to reach my goal I am SO happy 🙂 – watch TV, feed myself steamed vegetables for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Last night my siblings and I were watching the seven o’ clock news on which they featured a story about the good work that doctors were doing in Somalia and my brother (who just turned eleven yesterday) said something along the lines of how come they always mention the doctors what about his team what about the nurses the nurses who took care of me (he was in hospital a couple of days ago) weren’t that bad and because I know that what he said was (and still is) so true I would like to say to all the nurses out there I SO appreciate what you do particularly with today being Women’s Day in South Africa I know that most of you are overworked and underpaid but without the healthcare sector would be on its knees so please keep doing what you’re doing and know that your work has value. Have the words of a child made you more appreciative of the people around you?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 322

My path has not been determined. I shall have more experiences and pass many more milestones. – Agnetha Faltskog

It’s 8: 58 PM on day 322 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to feed myself an oranges for breakfast, brush my teeth, hang out with my brother and cheer him on as he blew up a balloon – he came back home after a five day hospital stay and the physiotherapist suggested he blew up balloons to increase his lung capacity –feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch TV, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – feed myself an avocado sandwich for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

As you may or may not know today is the official first anniversary of this blog – I say official because I actually started this blog on July 11, 2010 but back I was interviewing women around the world to see what they’re lives which suffice to say didn’t work out – and in honour of that I would like to thank everyone for reading and share with you some of the comments – including those I’ve received via Facebook and Twitter – people have made about this blog over the past 365 days. Take a look:

The things you said that took my
breath away: Best comments of the past year

Laura stanford_84@hotmail.com

202.124.72.208

Submitted on 2010/08/25 at 8:40 pm Nisha, I am touched that I got a mention. I appreciate it more than you would know. Your influence on my life is unmeasurable. You have lifted my spirits today.I want to thankyou for being you, for thinking of others and for helping all those less fortunate through your wonderful Clean Water 4 All CampaignLaura xx
Wayne Mansfield

waynemansfield.com

wayne.mansfield@272mail.com

58.170.183.99

Submitted on 2010/09/14 at 11:26 am Nisha I am so proud of you… and I wish you every success on the journey to reclaim yourself.When the cards are dealt you didn’t get all the usual picture cards… that would be too easy wouldn’t it. You got the “hey world… look at me!! I wont lie down and be walked on.”I would like to add some $$$’s to your water project – please resend me the link so I can do that tonight.

Your Aussie friend

Wayne

Drew

andrewjbynum21@hotmail.com

74.242.187.94

Submitted on 2010/12/04 at 1:28 pm Nisha – you totally inspire even a handicapped guy like myself; know that you are loved for what you do, as well as your attitude – ❤ -db
Miss Sara

randomlyspeakingpoeticallythinking.com/

misssld2u@gmail.com

68.58.72.13

Submitted on 2011/01/11 at 3:46 am Just WOW… Congrats on taking something that must have been so hurtful & turning it into a positive. I never struggled w/ allowing ppl to define me, it was always my past… the family that I came from, the abuse, chaos, traumas, etc.,etc., etc., I became ashamed and I learned last year (in therapy) that shame
was keeping me sick… so I have been stepping out in who I am TODAY &
being thankful, too. *Big Hugs* to you!!!
joyislife

joyislife.com

leticia@joyislife.com

98.19.88.73

Submitted on 2011/02/24 at 6:54 pm You have a very good question. Many of us are considered “normal”, yet what is normal… Though we may not have an outward or physical disability, we are all disabled in some way, for me it is “financial disability”. Yet, the experiences I have(past and present), motivate and inspire me to share with others faith and hope… You are an inspiration to me and many will benefit from your incredible perseverance , you have chosen wisely. Keep up the good works. Warmth & Joy, Leticia
Dawn twitter.com/morsemusings

sagepublishing@mac.com

173.29.230.53

Submitted on 2011/03/14 at 1:17 pm Truly a wonderful post Nisha.When we are surrounded by those who are anything less than caring it may very well cause us to feel uncared for, unwanted, and maybe even unloved at times. We have all experienced this at a time in our lives. Having esteem in ourselves can carry us through, so true.Given the same experience, I may ask to be taken home and not left in a car and hope that my needs, wants and desires will be respected
Patricia – Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker

patriciasingleton.blogspot.com

patricia-singleton@sbcglobal.net

64.149.19.220

Submitted on 2011/04/07 at 7:26 pm Nisha, you are a true inspiration. You show others what is possible. Often our attitude toward God and our own lives is the only thing that we can change. I have been to southern India 3 times and know how important clean water is. Thank you for the work that you do
A tweet sent to me by Tana Lopez (@woveneye3) on 2011/05/04 Reading this changed my whole day, my whole week, and perhaps even more. Wow, talk about inspirational!! nisha360.wordpress.com @Nisha360
Ellen – Love That Max

lovethatmax.com

lovethatmax@gmail.com

66.250.5.18

Submitted on 2011/05/11 at 5:55 pm SO glad to know you. You’ve already inspired me. I am so psyched you’re making good headway
with contributions to the water project.
Did I mention you rock?
An excerpt from a message that Galen Gregory sent me on 2011/05/12 via Facebook

Hi, Nisha, thanks for accepting my friend request. I am really enjoying your blog. When I first read your introduction, I have to say my heart soared. I’ve met so many young people who lead very self-centered lives and sometimes I get very pessimistic about the future because of that. So when I read your story, it really lifted my spirits to know that there are young people who want to help others and make a the world a better place.When you are stuck at home, perhaps you can think how you are making a difference in people’s lives in distant places…not only the people you will help with clean water, but the people who are inspired or given hope by your work. In that way, you’ve already made your mark in St.Louis, Missouri, USA. :>)

Yours truly,

Galen

Stan Faryna

stan.faryna@gmail.com

109.166.138.103

Submitted on 2011/05/28 at 7:27 pm Nisha Varghese,Your voice walks the earth. Your work touches the hearts of people in far away lands. You inspire others and in so doing, you heal broken people and a broken world. From a wheelchair.Those who pity you are in need of more healing than you. For they are blind.

Stan Faryna

28 May 2011

Bucharest, Romania

P.S. Print this comment and tape it to your bedroom door. So all who may come to look with pity upon you, have a chance to be healed themselves.

Shivya

theshootingstar.wordpress.com

shivyanath@gmail.com

59.94.128.27

Submitted on 2011/06/05 at 8:34 pm You’re my new hero, Nisha. Thanks for inspiring me and being the change you are.
An excerpt from a message that Bonnie Squi sent me on 2011/06/06 via Facebook

 Hi Nisha

I hope you don’t take this the wrong way but when i read your blogs they make me smile and laugh. Reason being is because of my rite arm being fracture twice and the bone thinning plus arthritis in it and it shakes all the time

.I have trouble opening things and our kids want to do it open what ever i’m trying to open. I look at them and say i’m not helpless. Just knowing i’m not the only one going threw things like this makes it so much easier to cope. Because others don’t understand what your going threw.

Have a wonderful day my friend

Bonnie

Shasta Kearns Mooreo utrageousfortune.net

skearns812@gmail.com24.21.211.4

Submitted on 2011/06/23 at 7:39 pm Hey thanks forthe mention and thanks for allowing me to find your blog. I love it! Very nicely written. It gives me hope for how well-written my own son might be one day.Being a parent is immensely hard. You don’t ever get to “win” because what is a “successful” person? Defining success is very different now that I am faced with a son with a disability. Cut your mom some slack! Then remind her that love is the most important thing.Good luck with our campaign, too. I retweeted about it!
Betsy Cross
silentleaves.wordpress.com
ekcross10@yahoo.com
75.69.185.53

What fun! That you’re documenting your journey through the things most (if not all) of us take for granted.I can’t remember the person who posted this (Stan Frayna?), but the name of the blog cracks me up! “If God Is Watching I Plan on Being Entertaining”. That’s THE best! Good luck on your journey. I hope it has turned into a little bit of fun. Pain is the worst. Chronic pain worse than that! You made me smile. You have a fun spirit.

Betsy

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!