Day 412

You shouldn’t go somewhere where somebody doesn’t want to take you– that’s what I learned today 😦

It’s 7: 06 PM on day 412 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself Idli –   a south Indian savory cake popular throughout India – and Sambar – a dish common in South India and Sri Lankan Tamil cuisines, made of toor dal – for breakfast, publish my Kid of the Week  feature,  prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – go to the party  –it was the funniest thing this woman came up to me and said I saw your website (my fundraising page) and even now, a couple of hours later, I don’t know what she wanted me to say to that seeing as she saw it and did nothing to help I suppose that’s how most people are these days all talk and no action –  tweet about my campaign some more–still no luck– feed myself spaghetti with sauce for dinner –when I done I had spaghetti all over myself oh well 🙂 –and brush my teeth once more.

This afternoon just before we were about to leave for the party my dad said why don’t you guys just go – he knew my mother would never be able to load me on and off the car – and I found myself saying please come please come please come in that moment I felt like something he stepped on and promised myself that I would never again go anywhere with him unless it was absolutely necessary and that I guess is my message to you guys when people treat you with less than the respect you deserve just decided that they will never have the opportunity to treat you in that manner ever again. Have you ever sacrificed your pride and gone somewhere somebody didn’t want to take you only to wish you hadn’t?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

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Day 411

Some people don’t deserve to have kids – that’s what I learned today 😦

It’s 6: 49 PM on day 411 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth,tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck – feed myself scrambled eggs, sausages and fried tomatoes   for breakfast,  prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature,   prepare my Kid of the Week feature for Sunday – I really like this week’s Kid of the Week she is proof that you only need a huge heart to make a difference :)– and finish reading Captive of my Desires by Johanna Lindsey  – It’s a good book I would recommend it to anyone who likes romance novels 🙂

As you know my father and I don’t have the best relationship but today after I saw him, not for the first time, raise his hand to my mother over something as small as asking him to  pay somebody money so that we could go to a community member’s farewell party tomorrow–everybody who is going to the party is expected to contribute a certain amount which will go towards buying a farewell gift for the family that is leaving – I thought to myself what kind of a man would raise his hand to his wife in front of their child and lost all respect for him as a human being which is not to say my mother was a complete innocent in all this after my father stepped out of the house my mother started having a candid conversation with my eleven-year-old brother about how horrible she thought our father was which I promptly put a stop to because although I didn’t respect my father I believed that my brother deserved a chance to make up his own mind about him without my mother’s influence. Are you behaving in a manner that is consistent with being a parent?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 410

You can complain about your life and still be grateful– that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 28 PM on day 410 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself spring rolls for breakfast,  prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature, feed myself raw mixed vegetables  for lunch,  tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck –  continue reading Captive of my Desires by Johanna Lindsey feed myself spaghetti with sauce – I used a fork and made a mess oh well 🙂 – for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Last night as I struggled to turn myself over so I could get a decent night’s sleep I realized that I would have to work twice as hard to live half the normal life and that made me burst into tears which normally I would have felt guilty about because I would think to myself what do I have to complain about there are kids right now dying of cancer but yesterday I just thought I am grateful but this is so unfair muffled my tears with a pillow – if my family heard me all they would think to say is we’re sorry and frankly at that precise moment I didn’t need that because they don’t get it they’re only affected by my “disability” when they’re with me other times they can go places with stairs and do things without a second thought whereas I on the other hand don’t have the luxury of taking a break from my life I have twice as hard as everybody else does every minute of my life – and went to sleep. Do you put on a brave face and solider on because you fear being labeled an ingrate?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 409

It’s okay to sound like a broken record if you’re saying something important – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 48 PM on day 409 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself bread and scrambled eggs for breakfast, chat to Ramon Thomas over at Ramon Thomas: Pychology of Technology via Skype–we’re working together on something stay tuned to see what it is–  prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature,   feed myself Chapati and  chicken curry for lunch,  watch TV, feed myself a mixed chicken and vagetable wrap for dinner  brush my teeth once more and tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign –no luck.

A few months ago I donated $6.50 to the United Nations World Food Programme and ever since then they have been emailing me article, pictures and videos which I have been ignoring for fear that if I saw faces of suffering children I would be compelled to give but today I realized that other people ignore the problem and walk away not me so I bit the bullet and watched the videos I had been sent and this is what I saw:

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 408

If you know your truth what others think of you should be of no consequence to you – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 11 PM on day 408 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, prepare and publish my Disability of the Day feature,     feed myself a scrambled egg for breakfast – I used a fork to feed myself I am SO PROUD of myself 🙂 – tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck today  but Chrissy (@ChrissyPappas) made another donation  yesterday – thanks Chrissy if more people were like you I would have reached my goal by now 🙂 – feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch TV, feed myself bananas for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Last night after my mother took me to the bathroom I asked is Kevin – my brother – using the laptop and she replied – I understand she was tired it’s not easy picking an average-sized twenty-year-old up and putting her on the toilet when you’re in your late forties – in an irritated tone he’s studying you’re on the laptop twenty-four hours a day which really pissed me off because she made it sound like she thought I was sitting around playing games all day but now I realize that I shouldn’t care what anybody thinks I do because I know that I work from 7 AM to midday on this blog after which I promote my campaign with EVERYTHING I’ve got only to hear a thousand nos before I finally hear a yes. Is what others think of you of consequence to you?

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 407

Twitter is helping to create world peace by making us realize that regardless of how different we may be we all want to be loved and validated – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 09 PM on day 407 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, feed myself a boiled egg for breakfast, drink coffee by myself,  publish my Disability of the Day feature, tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck –   feed myself rice and curry for lunch, watch TV,  feed myself a banana for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

As you probably know by now if you’ve been reading by blog for a while I LOVE LOVE LOVE Twitter – a micro-blogging platform which boasts millions of users ranging from celebrities to teachers from all over the world– so today I’m going to tell you why am I love it so much, give you the definitions of the symbols and terms commonly used on Twitter and share with you some of my Twitter tips and tricks. Take a look:

Twitter 101: Everything you need to know before you click Log in

Why do I love Twitter?

1. The fact that I have Cerebral Palsy means that most people who I meet in person will have preconceived notions about me whereas on Twitter it’s a non-issue because people cannot see me – people only find out that I have Cerebral Palsy when I tell them, when they read my Twitter bio or when they log on to this blog.

2. You get to meet all sorts of people from different walks of life – teachers, doctors, lawyers, celebrities – who live oceans away from you and share in their lives – my friend, Emma (@sapphire100), who I have been interacting with via Twitter for months just had a baby (congratulations again Emma) and she sent me a picture of her son, Aiden Tate, a few days ago.

3. It has made it possible for me to raise thousands of dollars for my campaign without stepping a foot outside my house – I can’t drive and my parents are teachers who work eight hours a days so it would be impossible for me to go to the mall and set up a stand or something to raise money for my campaign.

4. It has exposed this blog to a worldwide audience at no cost to me – every time I publish a new post the name of my post and the link to the post appears automatically on my Twitter profile because I turned on the ‘publicize’ feature on this blog.

Symbols and terms commonly used on Twitter

#

The # symbol, called a hashtag, is used to mark keywords or topics in a Tweet. It was created organically by Twitter users as a way to categorize messages.

@

The @ sign is used to call out usernames in Tweets, like this: Hello @Twitter! When a username is preceded by the @ sign, it becomes a link to a Twitter profile.

Avatar

The personal image uploaded to your Twitter profile in the Settings tab of your account.

Bio

A short personal description of 160 characters or fewer used to define who you are on Twitter.

Blocking

To block someone on Twitter means they will be unable to follow you or add you to their lists, and we will not deliver their mentions to your mentions tab.

Direct Message

Also called a DM and most recently called simply a “message,” these Tweets are private between the sender and recipient. Tweets sent over SMS become DMs when they begin with “d username” to specify who the message is for.

Favorite

To favorite a Tweet means to mark it as one of your favorites by clicking the yellow star next to the message.

Follow

To follow someone on Twitter is to subscribe to their Tweets or updates on the site.

Follow Count

The numbers that reflect how many people you follow, and how many people follow you. Found on your Twitter Profile.

Follower

A follower is another Twitter user who has followed you.

Following

Your following number reflects the quantity of other Twitter users you have chosen to follow on the site.

Handle

A user’s “Twitter handle” is the username they have selected and the accompanying URL, like so: http://twitter.com/username.

Home Timeline

A real-time list of Tweets from those you follow. It appears on your Twitter home page.

Listed

To be included in another Twitter user’s list. Listed numbers and details appear in the statistics section of your profile.

Lists

Curated groups of other Twitter users. Used to tie specific individuals into a group on your Twitter account. Displayed on the right side menu of your homepage.

Mention

Mentioning another user in your Tweet by including the @ sign followed directly by their username is called a “mention”. Also refers to Tweets in which your username was included.

Profile

A Twitter page displaying information about a user, as well as all the Tweets they have posted from their account.

Reply

A Tweet posted in reply to another user’s message, usually posted by clicking the “reply” button next to their Tweet in your timeline. Always begins with @username.

Retweet (noun)

A Tweet by another user, forwarded to you by someone you follow. Often used to spread news or share valuable findings on Twitter.

Retweet (verb)

To retweet, retweeting, retweeted. The act of forwarding another user’s Tweet to all of your followers.

RT

Abbreviated version of “retweet.” Placed before the retweeted text when users manually retweet a message.

Trending Topic

A subject algorithmically determined to be one of the most popular on Twitter at the moment.

Tweet (verb)

Tweet, tweeting, tweeted. The act of posting a message, often called a “Tweet”, on Twitter.

Tweet (noun)

A message posted via Twitter containing 140 characters or fewer.

My Twitter Tips and Tricks

1. When you log in to Twitter the first time around click on the ‘Who to Follow’ tab at the top of your screen, type in whatever your interested in and start interacting with people who share your interest chances are they will follow you.

2. ALWAYS follow back someone who follows you because otherwise they’ll unfollow you unless that user is not the type of follow you want – I once had someone following me who tweeted about foreskin suffice to say I unfollowed him because he wasn’t my target market.

3. ALWAYS thank people for retweeting your tweets and mentioning you because whether in real life or on Twitter appreciation never goes unnoticed.

4. Reciprocate: If someone often retweets your tweets or mentions you, you should retweet their tweets and mention them whenever you can.

5. NEVER ask someone you just started interacting with on Twitter to do something for you that you would not ask a stranger on the street to do for you – when I started on Twitter I used to tweet links to my campaign to people I hadn’t even introduced myself to needless to say that didn’t go over too well (people thought I was a spammer) but then one day I realized that I should stop trying to get people to invest in my campaign and start trying to get them to invest in me by showing them who I was.

6. If you’re a blogger blogging about a specific topic e.g. Cerebral Palsy you would want your tweets about your blog post to look something like this: Day 407 #SpecialNeeds #CerebralPalsy #HumanRights #Water #TwitterTips (Note: This tweet contains two components the name of my post and the hashtags that will attract my target market to this blog).

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!

Day 406

It’s important to leave bread crumbs as you walk this path called life so that you can find your way back easily if you ever get lost – that’s what I learned today 🙂

It’s 7: 26 PM on day 406 of my journey towards independence and I’ve managed to brush my teeth, publish my Disability of the Day feature–I prepared it yesterday night – practice typing with both my hands – I kept forgetting to use my right hand maybe I should just tie my left hand behind my back until my right hand becomes a little more dominant –   tweet about my Clean Water For All Campaign – no luck – watch TV, feed myself rice and curry for lunch,  watch  some more  TV, feed myself yoghurt for dinner and brush my teeth once more.

Today I typed a letter to my thirty-year-old self to practice item #3 on my Timeline to complete all the things I need to do to become physically independent list – typing with both hands – and I was absolutely amazed at how much I learned about myself, the people in my life and what I want for the future. Take a look:

Dear 30-year-old me,

I am writing this letter so that hopefully when you read this ten years from now you can look back on the past ten years of your life and either say I am living the kind of life I envisioned for myself when I was twenty or if you got a little sidetracked – which you often do (hopefully you’ve lost that with age) – you can say what can I do now to create the life that I envisioned for myself when I was twenty.

Ten years on I hope you’ve published ‘The Accidental Philanthropist’ – the book about how you went about raising money to build a well in India/Africa and all the wonderful people you’ve met on that journey – become physically and financially independent, travelled across Europe but most of all I hope you’re happy and that you go to bed every day grateful for something just as I do.

Before I conclude this letter which must now seem like a lecture to you I KNOW (don’t ask me how I know) that money is not and never will be a problem for you so share it with an open heart because at the end of the day what we have is not ours we are merely custodians.

Yours sincerely,
Twenty-year-old Nisha

PS. If you haven’t forgiven daddy completely for the way he’s treated you in the past just do it maybe he thought he was protecting you from discrimination by not taking you out in public not realizing that he was actually discriminating against you by doing that.

Are we connecting on Twitter? If not, say hi at http://twitter.com/Nisha360

If you’ve given to my cause or you can’t give now, please help me by sharing my cause with others. You can tweet about it like my friend Stan Faryna. This is the tweet he uses: @Nisha360 is a brave, smart young woman trying to make a better world for us all. Please help her do an amazing thing. http://bit.ly/hC7vOu

Stan’s very sweet for saying so, but feel free to write what reflects you best.

Thanks to all my friends out there who are helping me make my dream come true: to make a better world for all of us!